
Doesn't it
seem as though there's no rest for the weary? And, doesn't it also
seem as though the weary person is usually mom? That's probably
because moms take care of home and household as well as everything
in between. So the question one must ask is; who takes care of mom?
The answer? You do! If you happen to be a busy mom, odds are you
need to learn to value yourself and your own personal needs by
scheduling some special alone time.
This personal time is a right of yours and is a real necessity for
busy moms. All busy moms have the ability to nurture others but
that constant care and giving can definitely takes its toll.
For example, a vehicle needs gasoline to make it run. Sooner or
later the gas will run out and you won't be able to use your car
until it's filled up with fuel. This analogy also goes for you. If
you don't find the time to replenish your body and mind, just like
a car engine, you simply won't function. Even worse, if you do try
and push things to the limit, you run the risk of developing
emotional or physical issues brought on by excess demands on your
system. You need to maintain your emotional well-being, to ensure
your running in top shape and with a full tank of gas.
By taking personal mom time, you allow yourself to refuel, so that
you can provide for your family and for yourself. Next time you
feel overstretched, don't be ashamed or afraid to take fifteen
minutes to sit and decompress. Here are a few tips to help you fit
in some much needed "mom" time:
1. Wake up early if needed.
When you have kids, the day
begins at a hurried and hectic pace. Once your day begins, you need
to hit the ground running and there is very little opportunity to
stop. By waking half an hour before everyone else, you can create
some private time for a little peace and solitude to enjoy a cup of
coffee, meditate, listen to some music, or read a book.
2. Find an outdoor escape.
In the spring or summer,
relaxing in a backyard hammock or lounge chair under a tree is
often the perfect escape from the pressures of the day. Sitting
quietly reading a book or magazine for a while can seem like bliss
to many moms.
3. Ask your partner for help.
Obviously children love
their mothers but father time is important as well. Get your
partner to take care of the kids and let them bond together while
you go out shopping, for a coffee with girlfriends, or simply enjoy
a hobby around the house. The time is yours so do whatever you'd
like. Just know that if you stay around the house, you run the risk
of having your personal time interrupted.
4. Turn unexceptional occurrences into major events.
What do I mean by this you ask? Well when you take a bath try
adding scented candles, bubbles, soothing music and a bath pillow
or headrest. All of a sudden, a normal bath has taken on a spa like
atmosphere and is a much more enjoyable experience. Another way to
make a normal event become extraordinary is to turn a movie into a
theatre-like experience. Try turning out the lights, making some
popcorn, getting rid of the phone and other distractions and
curling up on the couch with some pillows and blankets.
5. Fit in exercise breaks.
When you get a few spare
minutes in a day, probably the last thing you want to do is
exercise but by getting a little physical activity in your day, you
can create some far-reaching positive results. Not only does
exercise allow you to stretch your muscles but it also lets you
think more clearly and drains away stress as natural endorphins are
released into your body. To make this task easier, try doing some
jumping jacks while watching television or try jogging to the bus
stop or school when you pick up your kids
6. Make sure to laugh.
Get one of those joke a day
calendars for the kitchen or find a website that offer a daily
joke. You can also find plenty of videos on YouTube that are sure
to provide a good laugh. This recommendation should not be
overlooked as laughing reduces stress and helps lift your spirits,
not to mention keeping your abdominal muscles tight.
7. Use the Boy Scout motto.
The boy scouts learn to
"Always be prepared." If you head this advice, you will be able to
spend more time in a relaxed state. By staying on top of things you
will incur less stress. For example, try preparing lunches, ironing
clothes, and having your children place their backpacks by the
front door the night before. The fewer things you find yourself
scrambling to do throughout the day, the calmer and better off
you'll be when it comes to simply enjoying the downtime spent with
your family.
So moms, please be sure to take proper care of yourself and mix in
a bit of private time. You can only demand so much from yourself
and your family would miss you terribly if you weren't around to
love and care for them the best you could. You owe it to yourself
to take a break from the daily grind and refuel your engine!
Eronne Ward
www.cackleberries.com
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